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Richard Wilson

Thursday 19 January 2006

Irrational limiting belief

Rational positive alternative

I must never make mistakes

The only way to make mistakes is to do nothing. I'm active, and all active people make mistakes.

Other people should not make mistakes.

No-one's perfect. I can accept that other people will make mistakes.

Other people make me angry.

I make myself angry when I don't accept that other people don't live up to my expectations.

My happiness depends on other people's behaviour and attitudes.

My happiness comes from within me and does not depend on others.

I must live up to other people's expectations.

I don't need to live up to other people's expectations to be OK.

I must win.

According to the law of averages most people only win 50 percent of the time. I don't need to win to be OK.

Life should be fair and just.

Life is not fair and just.

I need other's approval to feel OK.

It's nice to get other's approval, but I don't need it to feel OK.

I must not cry.

It's OK to cry

There are plenty more examples to add to the list. Try these out at circle time to discuss. Note the difference between the boys responses and the girls responses. Have fun.

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